12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!) : Part 2

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If you can’t already tell, I like do multiple short posts as opposed to one LONG post for someone to digest. For better or worse, I think we as a society don’t have super long attention spans (I know I don’t), so I would rather air on the side of succinct than long winded. So, my dear reader, I divided my liberating behaviors theme into 5 posts.


This is part 2 in a 5-part series.

Here are the other parts, in case you are reading out of order (no judgement from me):

Part 1

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 1

Part 3:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 3

Part 4:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 4

Part 5:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 5


Let’s get right back to it!

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When I say “self-hypnosis” I actually mean self-hypnosis! Literally hypnotizing yourself for personal growth. About a year ago, I purchased a book called Instant Self-Hypnosis: How to Hypnotize Yourself with Your Eyes Open by Forbes Robbins Blair, although I am always skeptical of anything proclaiming to be “instant.” As opposed to other methods of self-hypnosis, the author (who was a hypnotherapist), discovered and developed a system of self-hypnosis that was triggered by reading and writing hypnosis scripts. I never really got into it initially, but about 4 months ago, I was inspired to re-dedicate myself to this practice. Once I began setting aside time to this practice, I definitely noticed “changes”

Now…

With any positive results from engaging in certain behaviors—in this case self-hypnosis—it can be frequently argued that there is a certain placebo effect taking place. Although I have felt that I was indeed in a hypnotic state, I always consider the power of the mind and suggestion. This is why I added the “/Affirmations” after self-hypnosis. Because even if the actual self-hypnosis does NOTHING, you are still benefiting because you are essentially reciting positive affirmations to yourself. Affirmations are positively and usually present-state phrases (I am, not I will), that are stated to oneself. That is probably the laziest definition, so I suggest you do your own research on affirmations if you are so inclined (Here’s a good place to start: What Are Affirmations and How to Use Them).

Examples of basic affirmations:

“I AM SUCCESSFUL”

“I AM HEALTHY”

“I AM CREATING MY WORLD”

In essence, hypnosis and affirmations both seek to work on our subconscious mind, which is the larger iceberg under the water, whereas the conscious mind is only the tip of said iceberg. The subconscious mind, for various reasons, “broadcasts” messages to us that can be detrimental to our overall well-being. These deeply embedded messages affect our self-esteem, our physical body, and even our psychological orientation and outlook on life. Hypnosis relaxes our mind-body so that we can “tape-over” these messages with more beneficial ones. It’s like recording over reality tv shows with informative nature documentaries. On a slightly more superficial level, affirmations do the same—changing the hidden recordings that are playing in the background.


Mornings are a wonderful time to recite affirmations and plan goals. Or eat delicious muffins.

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This seems like an obvious behavior that everyone should be doing BUT few actually sit down and do it.

Why not?

First of all, I only started goal-setting, like specific goal-setting, about 6 months ago. For the past 5 years, I have been inundated with awesome ideas/projects that I have wanted to pursue, but they have rarely translated to goal-setting.

Again…why not?

Well, I think goal-setting isn’t done by people (speaking to my own experience) because goal-setting requires follow-through (which is an important part of behavior by the way). If you write down that you want to complete your book manuscript by March 1st, and you determined this is feasible and possible, then if it gets to March 1st and you aren’t done, then there is a clear problem.

Maybe you had to deal with a crisis leading up to this date that delayed the completion.

Maybe you will be finished by March 2nd or 3rd.

But if you aren’t even close, then you have to hold yourself accountable if you haven’t been doing what you said you will be doing. Goals make us do that. And they have to be tangible goals that can be quantified/measured!

It is so much easier to half-ass our projects, when we don’t set goals and deadlines. We can’t say we fucked up or we have been lazy, if there has been no measure of our progress.

“Oh that book I have been ‘working on’ for 2 years, yea it’ll be done ‘soon’…”

vs.

“Yup, I am editing and revising the manuscript right now. I plan on having it done by March 1st.”

In my room, on a whiteboard, I have specific dates circled for specific projects. Most importantly, these dates are right in front of my desk, so I am always looking at them and reflecting upon if I am actively working toward them.

For my writing, I plan on having my first book manuscript completed by 4/4/17. I am putting pressure on myself to finish all my writing throughout the month of February, and then edit/revise throughout the month of March.

For added pressure, I am also going to reach out to an artist friend about creating the cover, knowing that once I have a cover, it will further motivate me to complete the manuscript ASAP!

Whatever you have to do to hold yourself accountable, especially for pursuing YOUR dreams, then you have to create a structure that will get you to actually put in the work.


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This, like goal-setting, is a new but important revelation in my life. Historically, I have always been anti-structure. I have always liked going about life “by the seat of my pants”. This impulsive and un-tethered approach to living has its pro’s and con’s. You can feel inspired and creative on a whim but you can feel disorganized on a daily basis as well. Also, some of my most impulsive behaviors are not the healthiest i.e. impulsively buy a box of cookies from the gas station. I also realized that if I wanted to work on 2 or 3 projects, mainly writing and podcasting, then I need to organize my time to ensure that I was putting in/setting aside time for these pursuits. I saw quote yesterday that said “Your business can be full-time or part-time, but not spare-time.” I appreciated the wisdom of that quote because it is about creating a certain level of professionalism in what you do. If you consider your writing as a “hobby” your psychological approach may be vastly different if compared to considering your writing as part-time job.

My approach was to figure out in a given week, when subtracting working, eating/cooking, exercising, hygiene, how many hours on average of free time I had. Then once I had that number, I figured out how many hours a week I wanted to devote to podcasting and writing, as well as another project. To take it a step further, I also did what is known as “time blocking” with the help of Google Calendar. This is going through your available times and blocking off 3 hours of writing or 2 hours of podcasting.

Since I began this system in mid-December, my schedule has changed and I have a 2nd part-time job (like a traditional part-time job, not like a “part-time job” meaning project like mentioned above) so my schedule is slammed! Those time blocks are now filled with meetings and emails.


Always make time for pizza. But eat it sparingly. Or not. I’m not your parents. Seriously though…

Fortunately, my full-time job is working overnights with adults with special needs, so I realized that I still have about 30 hours of project-time per week! I would guess 75% of this blog has been worked on Thurs/Fri/Sat from 11 pm to 9 am when I doing my overnights. In the past, I did not always manage my time wisely since I was watching TV shows and movies during this time. Not anymore!


Daily Liberation - www.DailyLiberation.com #Behavior #Change #Blog #Nutrition #MealPlanningI honestly didn’t know where to group this behavior category, but it made sense to put it after/with time management and here’s why: When you plan your meals for the day/week/month, you will be able to use your time more effectively!

A few years ago, I was researching meal planning ideas and tips, and the writer mentioned the psychological advantage of meal planning. If you plan your meals for the work, both in terms of preparing and designating what you will have, this is a HUGE stress off your brain. Let’s face it, many of us want to eat healthy but. we. strugggggle!

What makes this struggle even more tangible is the “what am I going to have for ____?” internal battle.

“Hmmm smoothie or waffles? double cheeseburger or salad with grilled chicken? pizza or calzones fish?”

My sister, who is pursuing a masters degree in nutrition, had a conversation with me about the myth of willpower. We will never succeed if we are always locked into the willpower battle with ourselves…

We need to develop better eating habits [behaviors], not battle ourselves to make the right choice with every meal or snack.

“Who will win for the rights to this meal…will it be healthy me or unhealthy me? Stay tuned to see which side dominates in the ‘Battle of Willpower!'”

Sometimes, if you are feeling wonderful and disciplined, the salad with grilled chicken will win easily vs. the double cheeseburger. But let’s be honest, when we have difficult days, we can easily revert back to the habits we are seeking to move away from in our lives.

There is a reason it is called “comfort food,” and until we develop proper healthy eating habits [behaviors], anything else will be “uncomfortable food” and make us feel uncomfortable!

Sooooo, to avoid that whole problem, when you plan/schedule your meals, all you need to do is get the food and eat it!

The psychological advantage (yes, I remembered to go back to that) is that you don’t need to use your frontal lobe to decide on what you are going to eat meal-to-meal. This frees up mental energy that can be used more appropriately for creative projects.

Also, when you are planning meals, you are making your own meals which means (in theory) they will be healthier than anything you might buy AND you will be spending less money!

Believe it or not, meal planning helps you to have a more productive mind and many other benefits.

Try it out!


How beautiful! Almost as beautiful as doing behaviors that benefit ourselves! Almost…

What do you think about self-hypnosis, affirmations, goal-setting, time management, and meal planning?

Do you incorporate these types of behaviors in your own life? What works/doesn’t work for your?

Leave a comment below so we can keep this conversation going!

Thanks,

Chris


Part 1

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 1

Part 3:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 3

Part 4:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 4

Part 5:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 5


To change your life,

You must change your behavior.

About The Author

Posh Gibson

Raised by poodles in the Yucatan Peninsula around 1933, Posh Gibson also almost won Academy Award for an uncredited role in Toy Story II.

He loves patty melts and dogs, so eventually he decided to do social work and community organizing, although he is working on his debut off-broadway in 2018.