12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 5

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We made it! The final and most important part in this series.

The best has been saved for last!


If you have missed parts 1-4, you can read them here:

Part 1

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 1

Part 2:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 2

Part 3:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 3

Part 4:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 4


In part 5, we are going to discuss behavior for pursuing our dreams (or making your potluck dish) and being engaged in our community.


Rarely, do your dreams come to you, you usually have to go out and catch them. Get it…

Let’s-a gooooo! (*Super Mario voice*)

Daily Liberation - www.DailyLiberation.com #Behavior #Change #Potluck #DreamsI have internalized this philosophical-analogy for life, immediately once I heard it:

Life is a big potluck party. You need to bring your dish. No one can tell you what your dish is, you have to figure that out yourself. But everyone needs to contribute something and everyone has a dish they can contribute, although it may require some “soul-searching,” if not regular, old fashioned practice to get the ingredients and/or seasoning right.

It has taken me 10 years roughly, to figure out what dreams I want to pursue in my life. There is always refinement and narrowing as well, but mainly I didn’t know what I wanted to do professionally, let alone for me. Social work was a blessing. This profession gave me a trajectory, that has informed the rest of my life. For example, I have always loved writing, but now I want to write to inspire, motivate, provide practical information, and open dialogues about subjects considered taboo.

Here is my short list of potluck dishes/dreams I’m working on:

  1. Becoming an author (books)

  2. Becoming a blogger (as my full-time job)

  3. Starting a podcast network

  4. Creating a social worker consulting firm

  5. Becoming a black-belt martial artist/teacher

If you are like me, then you probably have too many dreams that you want to pursue in life. A practice that helped me was doing Warren Buffet’s 25-5 Rule exercise, where write down 25 goals you want to do in your life and then pick the top 5. Once the top 5 is selected, you can ONLY focus on those 5 items, or else you will never get anything substantial completed. I did this exercise a few months ago, and that is the above list.

Try it out! Start making your dish or keep refining it!

We need everyone to bring something to the party!


Figuring out your “dish” is 50% of human existence. The remaining 50% is figuring out how to get your dish out to the world. Neither is easy but still feasible (provided you do inner-work).

Daily Liberation - www.DailyLiberation.com #Behavior #Change #Community #Connection #SoulTribeLast, but certainly not least, Community Connections. What is community though? Community to me is any group of people who share similar values. This can be related to physical proximity, but with the internet, community can be a forum, message board, chat room, and now social media. The values of the group can be about how Philly cheese steaks are the best food ever or how Pearl Jam is the greatest living rock band or the Libertarian party. Community can also be people with the same religion, race, ethnicity, political affiliation, sexual orientation, age, interests, activities etc.

We need to be connected to communities that “speak” to us, because isolation–both physical and psychological—does not bode well for human beings and is inherently detrimental. Why do you think placing people in solitary confinement (in prisons) is such a human rights issue? It’s because we (as a species) thrive on our empathetic connections to others, and being denied that is, to say the least, cruel and unusual punishment.

So find YOUR community! Whether it is going to local community meetings (As a community organizer, I approve this message) or going to a chess club or going to LGBT rights group—it doesn’t matter, just find where you feel at home!

For me, as I begin my blogging journey, I don’t want to lose sight of engaging with other bloggers who I am learning from and admire. The blogging community, like any other community, has it’s behaviors and values. One behavioral trend that I truly appreciate about blogging, is that people generally write about ways to improve oneself.

I notice when I am not feeling well emotionally and mentally, I isolate myself. Ironically, based on my experiences, I know that 90% of the time when I am feeling some type of way, isolating myself actually makes it worse. Being around people, not even to talk about what I am going through, just being around them (interacting or not) always makes me feel sooooo much better and de-stressed. It helps me get out of my own head for a while and focus on other stimuli. In essence, it helps change our negative behavioral circuitry, i.e. I’m sad and I’m sitting at home by myself eating ice cream while being sad. We often need to flip our habitual patterns, and being connected and engaged with our chosen communities helps us go about that more easily.

Go and find your people! In-person and/or on The Internet!


Find. YOUR. Crew. Find. YOUR. Team. Find. YOUR. Squad. Find. YOUR. Community.

How about you? What dreams are you pursuing? Are you telling yourself “I can’t?” What keeps you from go after what you want to do?

What communities are you involved with? How does your community connection behavior keep you going in life?

Leave a comment because I want to know more about you!

Thanks,

Chris


Part 1

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 1

Part 2:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 2

Part 3:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 3

Part 4:

12 Behaviors To Help You Change And Get It Together (Finally!): Part 4

 

About The Author

Posh Gibson

Raised by poodles in the Yucatan Peninsula around 1933, Posh Gibson also almost won Academy Award for an uncredited role in Toy Story II.

He loves patty melts and dogs, so eventually he decided to do social work and community organizing, although he is working on his debut off-broadway in 2018.